20 Questions for Mum and Dad

So this was just for a bit of fun! I have done a bit of a questionnaire with Mr Ormerod on being a father. I asked and he answered. I have also done one for myself with the same questions (just adjusted a little bit) to see the difference underneath.

  1. Do you remember where and how I told you I was pregnant?

We had just had the conservatory build and we were stood in it. You came in and said you will need more help. I said I needed help with the painting and you replied that you needed help in other ways. I thought you had gone a bit mental. I knew there was something up because when I came home from work you were at the top of the street in your car driving off and said we needed toilet roll. Then you just gave the test to me and said we are having a baby.

  1. How did you feel when I told you ?

I thought it was brilliant, but I was surprised it was so soon after trying, and that was the biggest shock.

  1. Were you scared when people kept telling you how much your life was going to change?

Nope not at all. You make your life how you want it. Things change but not always for the bad, you just work around it.

  1. How did you feel watching the pregnancy grow?

I always wondered what it would be like being pregnant and wished I could try it for a bit. ( for a bit!! You gota do it for 9 months love!) I also loved watching the bump get bigger, knowing the baby was growing and getting ready to come.

  1. Did anything freak you out about me being pregnant?

Nothing really because I was prepared for it. I can see how some things would freak people out like when you can see hands and feet moving in your belly. Nobody really tells you about these things, until you can see it for yourself. It’s a bit like an alien.

  1. What was your favourite thing about expecting a baby?

Lots of things. Like the anticipation of it all, that was the best bit. Not finding out the sex of the baby was really good. I felt like finding out would have taken something away from it all. I also looked forward to all of the things I was going to be able to do when baby was born.

  1. What was the worst bit about it?

Seeing the bad side of it, how it affected you like the pains and the sickness you got. I couldn’t do anything to stop it and I found that really hard. When you had to be admitted to hospital when you were really ill it was horrible. I felt useless.

  1. What were you most nervous about when you found out you were going to be a dad?

Not one thing in particular but a lot of things in general. Like money and the space in the house. How would we manage everything?

  1. How did you feel when we went for the first scan?

I was excited and nervous because you said you didn’t feel pregnant anymore now that your sickness had gone so I was worried there would be nothing on the monitor.

  1. Do you feel your life has change a lot?

Yes it has, but for the better. So far we have been lucky to have a good baby.

  1. If we have another baby would you want a girl?

Yes. I wouldn’t be disappointed in any way if we had another boy but I would like a girl and she would have a big brother.

  1. What is the hardest bit about being a dad?

Keeping on top of everything is the hardest. If you keep on top of things it’s a lot easier, like cleaning the house etc. Also constantly questioning if what you are doing is right. Everybody has an opinion and it’s hard to switch off from. Sometimes I think people do it on purpose to try and wind you up.

  1. What’s the best part?

Loads of stuff. Seeing him laughing ad smiling because you know he is happy and you are doing things right.

  1. What was the hardest bit about having a new born?

Everything!! Just joking. Thinking that you are not doing enough to help each other. Like am I doing enough is she doing it all? Trying to come up with a bit of a plan of who does what.

  1. How did you feel when you had to go back to work?

Crap. I feel like I am missing out on stuff.

  1. How do you think our relationship has changed?

It has definitely changed. We don’t spend as much time on our own together, which was inevitable. Things like going out for date night isn’t as easy because we have to ask somebody to watch Eddie or take him with us. We can’t just go and do things when we want to.

  1. What age gap would you like between the kids?

If we didn’t have to pay for child care then 2 years. If we have to pay for child care than at least 3 years. It’s so expensive and the only reason why I wouldn’t want them any closer together.

  1. If you could decide what job Eddie does when he is older, he can do anything in the world, what would it be?

That is such a hard question! A veterinary surgeon

  1. If you had one wish for Eddie what would it be?

To stay as happy as he is now.

  1. If you could change anything , what would it be?

Nothing. If you change one thing, something else will change and it might be something you don’t want to change!

Mums answers

  1. Do you remember where and how you told Mr Ormerod that you were pregnant?

It was in the conservatory. It had just finished being built and he was painting. I had hidden the test in my sock drawer. I went to check it and it was positive. I had a little think about how to tell him and thought about the whole fancy reveal thing but I was way too excited. I went downstairs and tried to wind him up by telling him he needed to do more around the house. He did not look happy. So I Just gave him the test and said he has to do all the heavy stuff now!

  1. How did you feel when you found out ?

Really surprised. I honestly didn’t think it would happen so soon. We were very lucky. I thought it would take us a while and I had taken early pregnancy tests and they were all negative so I really didn’t think it was going to be positive.

  1. Were you scared when people kept telling you how much your life was going to change?

I was more annoyed because all everybody wanted to do was try and wind me up about it. Kept telling me my life was over as they laughed, instead of being positive about it. It’s scary enough being a first time mum.

  1. How did you feel watching the pregnancy grow?

It was amazing. I loved watching my belly grow bigger and bigger. It was the hardest thing I have ever done and there were times (a lot of them ) where I hated it and said never again, but It was the most incredible thing I have done and my biggest achievement. Feeling a wriggle in your belly is the most bizarre feeling.

  1. Did anything freak you out about being pregnant?

A lot. It was nice to feel baby moving but when I could see it, it was so weird and I felt like an alien. Of course the impending labour freaked me out too.

  1. What was your favourite thing about expecting a baby?

Being a mum. I felt like a mum as soon as I knew he was in there and all of the attention I got! It was nice to be spoiled. People would move out of your way when they saw you had a big belly and offer you a seat.

  1. What was the worst bit about it?

The constant worry. Has the baby moved? Should I be eating this? Have I been getting enough vitamins?? And of course the epic sickness I had. That was a sickness can’t even describe.

  1. What were you most nervous about when you found out you were going to be a mum?

Being a mum! Thinking of all the responsibility I will have for an actual person. Trying not to mess up and guide him in life.

  1. How did you feel when we went for the first scan?

I was scared. My sickness had passed and I didn’t feel pregnant anymore. I was convinced that I wasn’t pregnant and they were going to tell me bad news. Then when I saw the screen and I saw baby I fell in love.

  1. Do you feel your life has change a lot?

Yes definitely. My whole life revolves around a person. I have to make sure he is fed, clean, warm etc. I think about him every second of the day and that is OK by me because he’s my baby and I love him more than anything!

  1. If we have another baby would you want a girl?

Part of me thinks yes but also no. I know what I am doing with a boy! I really wouldn’t be bothered either way.

  1. What is the hardest bit about being a mum?

Trying to keep up with everything. Trying to do the housework and the cooking while Eddie is crying because he wants attention or feeding. Balancing life is a lot harder.

  1. What’s the best part?

Watching him grow up. Seeing all the new things he does. And when he smiles and laughs at me.

  1. What was the hardest bit about having a new born?

I had a really bad injury from giving birth so everything was hard at first. Getting enough sleep and rest was the hardest part. I have never felt so exhausted in my life.

  1. How did you feel when you had to go back to work?

I’ll let you know in May 2019

  1. How do you think our relationship has changed?

We don’t have the same amount of time to spend together. Sometimes I feel lonely and that we could make more effort to do things together. But also I am so tired all of the time, it’s hard. I know I could definitely make more of an effort.

  1. What age gap would you like between the kids?

If I didn’t have to go back to work I would have another next year. But because I do I want to save up some money next time so it will be a couple of years.

  1. If you could decide what job Eddie does when he is older, he can do anything in the world, what would it be?

I don’t think of any job in particular but I would like him to work for himself and be successful. Not have to answer to anybody else.

  1. If you had one wish for Eddie what would it be?

To enjoy a happy and fulfilled life. To make the most of it and see the world.

  1. If you could change anything , what would it be?

Nothing. I feel like things are the best they can be!

Hope you enjoyed! Funny how our thoughts are different but similar in ways!

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Amir says:

    Reblogged this on Notes and commented:
    This is so freaking interesting conversation between a wife and a husband about having a baby. Especially where he felt awful seeing her go through the usual pains and labor. That’s love, pure love 💕💖

    Like

    1. kerryleeo says:

      Thank you very much for your comment!! Xx

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Amir says:

        You’re welcome 🌹

        Like

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